COMMUNICATION 102: A Lesson in Listening

I read the conversation between an atheist and a renowned Christian who is also an intellectual and I realized how much knowledge we have attained as a church and how much such height of knowledge might be costing us.

In the conversation, the atheist asked some questions and the Christian intellectual gave responses that I cannot help but say fell short of the right answers. It appeared to me that the great Christian intellectual just wanted to ‘fix’ the error of this atheist so much so that he lost him in the process.

Lesson one: People don’t want to be fixed, they want to be heard. They might NEED fixing, but it’s next to impossible to meet a ‘need’ that is veiled with a ‘want’ without first meeting that ‘want’.

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COMMUNICATION 101: The Soul of a Healthy Debate

COMMUNICATION 101: The Soul of a Healthy Debate

Lessons from a discussion between a five-year-old and his father.

A young boy of 5 asked his father, ‘’Dad, why do we pay tax?’’ The father went on and on about how taxpayer’s money is used to fix roads, fund security and education and he listed so many other uses appealing to logic and reason. He explained why tax should be paid but the young boy was still not persuaded by his father’s reply. Then the father said, “Even Jesus said, ‘Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar'”.

Then the young child jumped at that answer, “Dad! That’s exactly my point. Caesar died over 2000 years ago, why do we still pay taxes to him?”

THE LESSON
From this story, we can clearly see that the effective teacher is not the one who simply ‘knows his onions’ or the one who can merely communicate his points fluently.
On the contrary, the effective teacher understands his audience (not just his onions) and makes a conscious effort to connect with them (not just to communicate).

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The Empty Tomb

The Empty Tomb

When ‘finding nothing’ becomes everything.

~Adams Allison~

Two old ladies were walking around a somewhat overcrowded English country church yard and came upon a tombstone. The inscription said: “Here lies John Smith, a politician and an honest man.” “Good heavens!” said one lady to the other. “Isn’t it awful that they had to put two people in the same grave?!”

In that lady’s perspective, that was a “whitewashed tomb… full of dead men’s bones” (Matthew 23:27). Although she was mistaken, it is important to note that her perception, wrong as it may have been, would be the reality we’d all face if Jesus had not risen from the dead; we would have a crowded tomb instead of an empty one.

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